October 23, 2013

On Marrying Young: Discerning Starting a Familly

My husband and I got married at 21 and 22, and now, two years later, we are joyfully expecting our first baby!
With the average age of marriage being around 27 for women and 29 for men (and climbing), and with couples waiting several years after that to start a family, I realize that our situation is not the norm. Add that to the fact that I’m finishing up with grad school and we’re living in a one bedroom apartment, and people start questioning our sanity!

If you had asked me in college, I would have never thought that I would start a family this young. While Thomas and I always wanted children, we saw it as something in the far future. Even when I started grad school, we figured we would probably start having children a few years after I started working.  
Sure enough, all of that changed...[read the rest on Mandi's blog]


  1. That was beautiful, Caitlin! You and your husband are very blessed! We had a baby shower for our first child three days before she was born! I really didn't have anything except a few outfits. The day of the shower my husband set up the crib, so really that's all we had ready for her arrival. She was born at 36 weeks.

    We have had to trust and depend on God's grace over and over throughout our marriage. It can be very hard, but God never disappoints.

    My husband and I have been reading The Blessed Friend of the Youth: The story of St. John Bosco and another good one, Uniformity with God's Will by St. Alphonsus Liguori .

    They are both really good. John Bosco grew up very poor and it seemed the chance of him being able to go to seminary was impossible, but God made it happen. His is a beautiful story of trust. His mother is also a very holy woman, she would say things like, "if you have the misfortune to become rich.." Anyway, it's a really good book and has really helped my husband and I.

  2. This picture is adorable!! Love :) Congratulations on the new addition to your family!

  3. This post reminds me of a book I once read by Danielle Crittenden called "What our mothers didn't tell us." She really hits home the benefits of marrying sooner rather than later and why the feminist movement has hurt women in ways society doesn't want to admit. These arguments are old news to most of the conservative Catholic crowd, but Crittenden is a secular author and doesn't write from a religious perspective, so her message is a little more accessible to some people. Anyway, great post! and there's my random book recommendation to any of your critics (not that I know of any, but my sister married young and she was constantly challenged on it)