July 21, 2013

21 Week Bumpdate

21 Weeks!  I can't wait for the next 19 to fly by! God has already brought us an overflowing amount of joy through this unborn child, and it's unfathomable to think that the joy will multiply exponentially when we're actually holding him in our arms!

Our Baby Boy:
  • He weighs 3/4 of a pound and is about 10.5 inches from head to toe! 
  • His eyebrows and eyelids are now formed! Amazing! 

Best Moments: Thomas and I went to Baby's R Us to browse all the baby stuff and think about what we need to register for!  I cannot get over how cute everything baby related is!  I think we said "Awwww" about 500 times.  Per aisle. 

Symptoms: I about passed out again.  Twice in one day. Our midwife said it should start to get less frequent soon, so I'm banking on that! 

Cravings Cherries, berries, watermelon, and grapefruit juice!  I drank three big glasses of grapefruit juice in one day because it was all I could think about.

Funny/Weird Things:  We came across a gigantic flea market this weekend and I begged Thomas to turn around and stop by because I saw some baby things! I was ready to buy a stroller/car seat set that was incredibly dirt cheap and in good condition...until the lady told me that she just had to bleach the car seat because there was some mold on it. I know some people probably wouldn't care, but I'm a germ freak and can't be getting something like that for our little one.  

Other: We did a little exploring this weekend, so we now have a few pictures of the two of us with baby! Five months in - it's about time! :) 
To all the mamas out there - what is absolutely necessary to put on the baby registry and what is not at all needed?  There is SO much baby stuff out there, and to be honest, it's a teeny bit overwhelming! 

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  1. The things I have used most often for all of mine are the infant car seat, usually using that till 9 or 10 months and then we move to a convertible car seat that faces the back. A Stroller, we never use the one that came with the car seat because it's so heavy and bulky to get in and out of the car. A crib, we have never used a bassinet, never had the room for one and for us the crib works just fine. One of these: http://www.target.com/p/fisher-price-my-little-snugamonkey-deluxe-newborn-rock-n-play-sleeper/-/A-14069814?ref=tgt_adv_XSG10001&AFID=Google_PLA_df&LNM=|14069814&CPNG=Baby&kpid=14069814&LID=PA&ci_src=17588969&ci_sku=14069814&gclid=CMKPhOjlwbgCFWYV7AodySsAAQ

    We didn't have one for our first two, but it is so helpful. Peter really loves it and sleeps in it during the day for naps and it's high enough so the kids can't really get to his face. A baby play mat, bouncey seat, infant bathtub, diapers, blankets, wipes, clothes, towels, and burp clothe are all used on a daily basis.

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    1. I wanted to also add, there may be things that work well for you and the needs of your family that might not be helpful to another family or vice versa. Like the boppy pillow has helped me with nursing, but I've met many nursing mothers who don't like using any of the nursing pillows and find their baby does much better without one. The same with nursing covers, play centers, and the list goes on. Just go over the things you think will be the most helpful for your needs and when the baby comes, you may find you'll need to exchange products for something else. Hope that helps!

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    2. Thanks so much Kari! I really appreciate your advice! That monkey swing is too cute! :)

      And good point about how different things work for different people!

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  2. There are soooo many things out there that are totally unnecessary, Caitlin. Of course, I am a minimalist by nature...but I chose to keep it simple! We used a bassinet downstairs and a crib upstairs...a bouncy seat, an infant car seat, an umbrella stroller or two, and like Kari mentioned, the wipes, diapers, towels, washcloths, onesies to start.

    Things that I found to be totally unnecessary...the wipe warmer, all those flashy, blinking loud toys, .and those big bulky activity things that you stick a baby in!

    Things I strongly suggest...a nice glider...better than a rocker...a good infant bath tub, and BABY MAGIC bath supplies!

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    1. Oh yes, the gliders are sooo nice!

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    2. Thanks Billie Jo! Oh, I have been looking at gliders! They look perfect for snuggling! :)

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  3. Caitlin - I know it can be so overwhelming. I have a document which a friend shared with me about all of her picks. I added mine to it and I will email it to you. Some of the stuff is out of date (like you aren't supposed to use the sleep wedges anymore), but it can give you someplace to start.

    But my overall pick? A sling. Used it all the time. My favorite is the Hava.

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  4. Over half way there! I'm extra excited for you now that I have my own little peanut in my arms! It doesn't matter how many times I do this, it never gets old. If anything, I am more amazed by the beauty and mystery of God's gift of life each time. It's all so incredible. We're keeping you in prayer here. I actually thought of the two of you while we were in the hospital, believe it or not... my husband is an amazing support person and yours sounds like he's going to be awesome every step of the way. That's so important and you are very blessed. And I was just feeling happy that you have each other. (Isn't it weird how blog people get into your brain like that...lol)

    About baby items... I'm going to think on that and come back later. There were so many items that I really didn't need that were on my first registry. And other items that I buy new again each time because they are that indispensable.

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    1. It really is so astounding to reflect about life! Thank you so much for your prayers! I truly appreciate it. That's so funny that you thought of me while you were in the hospital - it's true though, you start feeling like you know other bloggers and start thinking about them and praying for them.

      I would love to hear your thoughts! I hope you are loving this time with your sweet newborn! :)

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  5. Several semi-expensive BUT HIGHLY USEFULLY things that I registered for and was surprised to get were:

    My BreastFriend nursing pillow - It is more expensive than the Boppy but is all the rave at the Nursing Mothers group I go to.

    Beco Baby Carrier (or the Ergo) - The less expensive ones hurt my back but you should be able to try them out and you really don't 'have to have it' until you start leaving the house often. I use mine at church ALL THE TIME

    Britax convertible car seat - Yep they are the most expensive but worth every dime. Nope you don't need it for 6-9 months but if you get in on your registry there is a chance you might get it. Britax straps are the same material as a regular carseat so they are less prone / won't get super twisted up when your little one, is not so little anymore and is a squirmy worm while buckling in.

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    1. I second the nursing pillow! But I want to add that it seems like people either love the My Breast Friend or the Boppy, but not both. If the one you get doesn't work out for you once the baby comes along, I strongly recommend going ahead and buying the other one. It is worth the extra 30 dollars -- having the right pillow can make and enormous difference to your comfort with nursing during the first months and even beyond. And get an extra cover, too, for while the one that comes with the pillow is in the wash!

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    2. Thanks Jen and Lissy! Definitely something I will check out and try to figure out which one works best!

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  6. What does your son need? Awesome parents. Seems he's already got that nailed. :)

    Also, like Bille Jo said, there are so many unnecessary things. Clothes - we used lots of sleepers in the first few months - I like the ones that zip rather than snap - they're easier to get on and off. We got so many clothes - literally, there were things C never wore because he grew so fast. Unless you don't do laundry for a month or more, you really don't need much for each size. I've been better about that as he's gotten older. (But yes, there are so many cute boy things now to ooh and ahhh over!!! :-D)

    #1 BEST purchase EVER - Ergo baby carrier. I don't know WHAT I would have done without it. I still use it when running errands with C! Hands down, this is my most used item.

    **I also have a Moby wrap - which was great for the first few months, because he would nap in that- I couldn't get him to sleep in his crib or by himself, so I was able to get things done around the house while he napped on me. And I also have the Baby Bjorn. I also got a lot of use out of that- and it allows them to face front, which C wanted around 4-5 months. I did not get one with a waist strap, which I regret - I carried his weight in the middle of my back. So the ERGO was much more comfortable than the bjorn once my little man became beast-sized - the Bjorn only goes up to 25 pounds.

    So - I did get a ton of use out of all the carriers, but my fav is the Ergo.

    #2 Get a good umbrella stroller - we got a MacLaren at BRUs, but only a few months ago. We also have the one that came with the car seat, and literally, it takes up half my trunk, and I have a big trunk! Maybe it would be more manageable if I drove a minivan, haha, but I don't! So, we really didn't use that one much. I have a chico key-fit 30, but there is a new model that goes up to a higher weight, maybe 40 pounds? I would recommend getting one you can get a lot of mileage out of as far as weight goes. C has almost outgrown his!

    #3 If you travel - a pack-n-play. You don't need one with lots of bells and whistles, the baby just sleeps in there! :) The pack and play will also be useful if you want baby to sleep near you - we borrowed a bassinet from a friend at first, and when the friend had her baby and needed it back, we switched to the pack and play. C slept in our room until around 4 months. Bassinet and travel-bed in one!

    #4 If you consider cloth diapers, feel free to ask me about them! I do use disposables at night now (C wet thru anything I tried), but still cloth during the day.

    #5 If you're a germ-o-phobe, get one of those grocery cart/high chair covers. I do like having it in restaurants - although when they are little, most restaurants have those luggage sling things that you can rest the car seat on.

    #6 A video monitor. They're awesome. You can check on them when they're little and spy on them to see the funny positions they are in when they get older - and there get to be a lot of those!! :-D

    Happy shopping!!!! I LOVE these updates by the way!

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    1. Thank you soooo much for taking the time to give me all this input! It is so appreciated and really useful! I have heard such good things about the Ergo!

      We saw one of those grocery store covers in the stores and Thomas immediately pointed it out, knowing that I would want it haha!

      Thanks again! :)

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  7. I told my husband about my list and he reminded me about 2 other things, haha. :)

    An extra car seat base if you have 2 cars!

    Also - a baby mirror for the car (1 for each car) so you can check on the little one if you're driving alone with him.

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    1. Yes, the baby mirror! Makes for safer driving.

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    2. Both great ideas and ones that I would not have thought of!

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  8. I would also recommend registering for some swaddling blankets, the kind with the velcro. If you have a squirmy baby, they make the whole swaddling thing SO much easier. There are lots of different kinds; you can find them at secondhand shops, too, but we've found that they stretch out over time, so it's really nice to get them new rather than already stretched.

    It's also nice to have some wearable blankets (sleep sacks) for after the baby outgrows swaddling so that you will know that he is both warm and safe when sleeping apart from you.

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    1. Perfect! That is really good to know about getting ones that have velcro!

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  9. Something to think about when buying second hand is that car seats need to be replaced if they've been in an accident. If you don't know the person you shouldn't trust that they're being completely truthful about that...I only say that because some people don't think a Fender Bender is a big deal but in car seat safety it is. Also we loved the baby mirror but make sure it is the approved kind...like it wraps around your vehicle's seat not hangingon to the car seat. I didn't use a baby carrier til number 2 but it was definitely the best decision ever!

    We had a few outfits, car seat and pack and play with a bassinet and changing table attached. And then a cuddly baby and the rest came. If my experience with 2 very different kids has taught me anything it's a) don't ever say "we're never going to/we're always going to..." anything because in reality you do what works for your family and it might be different than what you expected. :)

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    1. I was just talking to my mom about the car seat thing and we were also talking about how they expire, so I think we're going to go new with that for safety purposes! Thanks so much for your advice! :)

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  10. I am also 21 weeks along, but with baby number seven! :) I've got a couple of posts on Baby Gear Essentials that might help. Newborn Gear (0-6 months) and Baby Gear (6-12 months). Love your dress.

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    1. Thank you Kendra! I will definitely check those out! :) And congratulations on your pregnancy!

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  11. My favorite baby thing was my Boba wrap. It helped me get out of the house early on, and get over the fear of taking baby out. We went out to a Mexican restaurant when our son was just a couple weeks old. He slept and nursed in the wrap. :D

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    1. So many wraps that sound so appealing hehe! :)

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  12. All you need are diapers, a boppy, a swing/bouncy chair, a wrap, and some onesies! Oh and a pacifier for that middle of the night screaming session when you cave in and shove it in his mouth :)

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    1. I'm definitely listening to the woman with experience with five babies! ;)

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  13. You are just the prettiest, glowing pregnant woman ever!

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  14. You look so beautiful! Sounds like you have a lot of advice. When my last one was born, it had been a long time since I had been pregnant. And with age, comes a little bit of wisdom. So here's my 2 cents...and if anything, it helps cut back on the "wants" and focus on the "needs". But I know it is still fun to get so darn excited! So here it goes: You need a crib (and the bedding). This second time around, I skipped on the crib quilt. The first one was "just for looks". Learned and saved $ the second time. I went a la cart with the pad and skirt and sheets. More choices that way, too. I founded a beautiful, solid cherry, chunky baby changer at a second hand children's store. So I bought a pad and covering for it. I always bought flannel "pads" to put the baby's bum on. In case there was an accident while changing the diaper, I only had to change the flannel pad and not the entire baby changing pad cover. Onesies. Booties. Diapers. Wipes. Powder (I use powder, some people don't). Lotion. Baby brush and comb set. Blankets to swaddle baby with. Night gowns!!! LOVE these for boys and girls. So much easier to change the baby in, especially in the middle of the night. Pacifiers - you never know! Bottle supplies...you never know! Wipes and wipe warmer! Can you imagine being sound asleep and someone wipes your bottom with a freezing cold rag?! LOL Sleepers. All they do is sleep for the first couple of weeks. I found those all to be the necessities at first. Baby won't use a saucer until at least four or five months. Swings...my kids hated them. As we needed more for Miss C., we would pick it up. We had SO many gift cards from generous people. Just go with the flow. Don't allow the stores to cause you anxiety :)

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    1. SUCH a good idea about the flannel pads! Just like what we have to use at the hospital. Thank you so much for the comprehensive list of items! I really appreciate it! :)

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  15. Caitlin, I love your dress! You three look great!

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  16. Hmmmn. I'm right at 23 wks pregnant right now with baby #3, and if I had to look back there are a few things I would register for that we didn't with our son and daughter.

    1) Cloth diapers!! I'm in the process of building a stash for our soon to be two yr old now and for our newborn when he/she arrives. They will save so much money period, but especially if you have several children. If you're not familiar with them, they sound old-school and very work intensive, but there are wonderful modern cloth diapers now that make cloth diapering easy. And they're so stinkin' cute ;) no pun intended, haha.

    2) A highchair. Somehow we've gotten by the last 3 1/2 yrs without one, but it would make like easier, I think.

    3) A good breast pump, if you plan on nursing (and you're not to emabarrased to ask for one ;)

    I would advise not to ask for any clothes or toys, because you will get a million of each!


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    1. YAY for your baby on the way! :) Thanks so much for the tips! We will definitely not register for the clothes or the toys. I am still on the fence about using cloth diapers!

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