October 17, 2012

Wedded Bliss Wednesdays Linkup



We've only been married for a little over a year so we're not experienced veterans or anything, but I still thought it would be fun to participate in this link up!  
I know I have many years ahead with much to learn, but this is where I'm at right now! :)




1. If you could give one piece of advice to any married (or soon-to-be married) couple, what would it be?
Make an effort to put God at the center of your relationship.  Take time to pray together and seek out opportunities at your church.  Spend time talking about God and your faith.  The devil is constantly trying to attack our relationships, and God is the only one who can help us stay on guard and have a strong marriage. 

For those who are soon-to-be married - do not stress about wedding planning!!! It is supposed to be fun...remember that you are marrying your best friend and focus on the excitement in that!

2. What is an absolute MUST for any marriage/relationship?

Sacrifice - We must be willing to put each other's needs first, the way that Jesus laid down his life for us.  I know God smiles down on us when we go out of our way to do something for each other.  It's the small sacrifices that contribute to a positive marriage...Thomas picking up groceries on his way home from work, helping me clean after dinner, and helping me with my schoolwork.  It's the little things we do that show each other we really care about one another, even when we'd much rather be doing our own thing.

3. What is the #1 no-no in a marriage?
Making your partner feel inadequate - I am so thankful for a husband who constantly encourages me and builds me up, and hopefully he feels the same way about me.  We try hard to make each other feel special every day, and it makes me really sad to see couples who put each other down.  It is never okay to hurt your partner's feelings by saying something negative about them. 

4. What is the biggest lesson you have learned from your marriage?
This may just be a personality issue, but be willing to sit down and talk out your issues.  Things work out a million times better when we sit down to talk or pray when we disagree.  I am definitely one who avoids conflict and would rather just ignore the problem, but things are so much better when I push past the desire to avoid issues and talk about them. 


I am so thankful to be married to the love of my life and my best friend!  Off to go spend some more time with him! :) 

Love,
Caitlin 

18 comments:

  1. Caitlin...you two are the cutest! But more importantly, you are an example of what is good about young people today. : )

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    1. You are sweet Billie Jo! We have much to work on though!

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  2. Absolutely agree with your lesson learned. Not always easiest but best for the long run.

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  3. Thank you so much for your reflection. I will surely take your advice to heart. you and Thomas are such a beautiful example of a married couple!! I think I've told you this before, but you are a true inspiration!! Unfortunately, I am guilty of blaming or putting down my wonderful fiance, and I really, really regret this almost as soon as it happens. We also need to work on putting God at the center of our relationship. I try to put God in the center of my own life...but never seem to talk with Greg about God in any depth. I really want to change that since we will soon be married and I want Christ to be the center of our marriage...but it's not that easy to always bring God into the conversation...especially since we aren't married yet and don't live together yet, so we don't pray together. I sure hope I can gather enough courage to start that kind of conversation and make it a habit, as I know this will be crucial to our marriage.

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    1. Thanks for your kind words, Agnes! I will pray for you and Greg to have those conversations and to develop a relationship together with God.

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    2. Thank you. Prayers are needed and much appreciated. I am really going to make that the focus of my prayers now. Just 2 days ago, I officially declared Blessed John Paul II the patron saint of Greg and I's relationship, and have been asking him to pray for us in this crucial time. (since JPII is the person I learned the most from about Catholic sexual theology and the married life...he's kinda my hero in that aspect). Time is ticking and it's getting closer and closer to our wedding and Greg and I have a lot of important things to talk about before that happens...but I am so weak and cowardly, plus Greg and I are on completely different spiritual levels. I can't help but be jealous when I read blogs of devout Catholic women who have devout Catholic husbands and they are truly united in their purpose of praising God through their marriage...and they talk about God and faith and all things holy...while it's so hard for me to do that because I feel that Greg is in a complete different spot on his journey. Yes, he's Catholic and yes we go to Sunday mass together every week, but he's not as serious about faith and about God as I am..I don't know if he realizes how much God loves him and how he wants him to be closer to Him. He's just not very personal with God, but rather kind of at a distance, putting other things before God...and just too busy working to spend any time with God. Whereas I'm on a completely diffent level. I am very much in love with GOd and I;m always reading Catholic books, blogs, articles...and I love all things Catholic. I think our faith is so amazing and so exciting.
      Don't get me wrong, Greg is a very good person and a very hard worker. He puts the needs of others before his own, which is what I love about him... but he doesn't really ever read about or seem interested in taking his faith to a new level. That is why it's hard to so openly talk with Greg about God because we are so different in that aspect. And that is why prayers are much much needed....and maybe miracles too! Sorry for spilling my soul to you! I hope you understand. I just feel more and more pressure the closer we approach to our wedding. And once again, thanks for being an awesome example!! I have already learnt so much from your blog and I keep checking every day to read more inspiring posts from you. And sorry for this being so long. Oops. Love, Agnes

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    3. I definitely understand! That must be really tough on you. I think the best thing you can do is be a positive example for him. The more he sees you loving God and how it affects your life and attitude, the more he will want to do the same, even if it takes a lot longer for him to get to the point where you're at. Have a good week Agnes!

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  4. This was so lovely and so true, Caitlin! If you've learned that much in one year, you are both so very lucky and blessed!

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    1. We have definitely been blessed! God has been way too good to us.

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  5. Hey Caitlin! It is always so refreshing to find Catholic bloggers - especially when I stumble upon them unknowingly! So fabulous - my favorite is about making sacrifices. I felt that was heavy on my heart as well when I wrote this earlier today! I also really needed to hear the part about building your spouse up... I have been really stressed (new mom) lately and I feel like it has caused me to take it out on my husband day after day without meaning to. I just definitely needed that reminder - thank you!

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    1. I am so glad this was helpful to you! I will need to check out your blog. I am so happy you commented here so that I could find another Catholic blog too! :) Have a great weekend!

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  6. I'm so glad I have had the opportunity to read so many good pieces of advice from wonderful people like you :D
    But I definitely agree with putting God at the center. And building each other up. It seems like many times Jim gets really upset at himself for something and I try so hard to make him feel loved. It's hard sometimes!

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    1. You and Jim are a sweet couple, and I know you'll have a strong marriage! :)

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  7. Hi Caitlin,

    I tagged you on my blog, head on over to check it out!

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    1. Aww thanks Grace! I've already done something like that, but if I get around to it I'll answer your questions!

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  8. You two are so sweet! Thanks for linking up with us :)

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    1. Thanks for hosting! I love reading what everyone has to say! :)

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